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My husband’s birthday was on Sunday. With that came food; not just an abundance of food, but an abundance of unhealthy food.

And I ate some. A few more ‘somes’ than I needed.

Apparently, I had a modicum of self-control because I didn’t gain any weight this week. I didn’t lose any either, though.

It’s got me thinking about how we celebrate. And when I say ‘we,’ I mean all of humanity. It’s not just an American or contemporary  tradition. Throughout history and various cultures, feasting has accompanied celebrations of marriage, birth, death, holidays, etc… Add to that the fact that Jesus’ first recorded miracle (water to wine) supplied drinks for a feast. We like to celebrate and we need to celebrate. And food is an integral part of celebration.

But how do we reconcile our need for celebration with the importance of self-control? Because if you’re anything like me, celebration is a license to indulge.

Maybe I’m getting this whole celebration business all wrong. Maybe I’m missing the point. Can I find joy in celebration without food? Is my happiness as shallow as that bowl of ice cream?

I didn’t overdo it for my husband’s birthday as badly as I have in the past, but I’m still not sure I can trust myself to have appropriate self-control in these circumstances.

There’s also something about reaching some weight loss milestones that makes me want to celebrate, and the first thing I always think of is food – some sort of treat. But that completely defeats the point of this journey!

So I’ve gathered some ideas on how to celebrate without food.

1. Go to a movie.
2. Have a board game night with friends.
3. Take a bubble bath.
4. Buy a new outfit.
5. Get a facial, or pedicure, or manicure.
6. Go hiking with family or friends.
7. Gather a group to go volunteer.
8. Get crafty and creative! Make something with friends.
9. Throw a tea tasting party (tea is guilt free!).
10. Run/walk in a race during the holidays.
11. Take a nap.
12. Turn up the music and dance!

These are just a few ideas. Do you have more to add to the list? Please share! I think we all would benefit from considering some of these before racing to food as our first source of celebration.

It’s inevitable that we will all continue to attend celebrations where food is involved, though. So what are we to do then?

Those are the difficult moments when we must employ self-control and have a mind focused on the true source of celebration. Often, the point of celebration is to share in the joy of others. I think the key then becomes thinking of others instead of ourselves. Enjoying good conversations with old friends or getting to know someone new, encouraging those who may be downhearted and adding to the joy of the joyful. This is how we can truly add to the celebration!

The holiday which should inspire the abundant joy in our lives is almost here – Easter. Most of us will be celebrating with packed dinner plates. But maybe we will discover that true fullness and satisfaction will come when we spend time praising and thanking God for the tremendous gift of His Son. And bringing glory to His name by sharing Him with others – might that be sweeter to the soul than the most delicious of desserts?

I woke in the dark of early morning, forced down a small breakfast, and shimmied into the requisite layers of a Pacific Northwest runner. As the sun sent its light giving rays, I waited, crammed into a mass of humanity, for the starting shot. Bang! The gathered crowds cheered, the lurch of adrenaline propelled me forward, and so began the Seattle Half Marathon. My frenzied first steps soon mellowed into rhythmic pavement poundings. The first mile was exciting and sufficiently warmed my body against the cold November morning. But, the runner’s worst enemy loomed ahead: hills. The road twisted and turned up the climbing elevation and my resolve began to falter. The cheering crowds that lifted us all off the starting line were now only a few small groups or couples spotted here and there along the course. As the adrenaline wore off and difficulty made itself at home, in crept the suggestion of the ‘Q’ word: What if, maybe I should, it wouldn’t be the end of the world, it’s not really that important in the grand scheme of things; what if I just stopped? Is it worth the pain? Maybe I should quit.

It’s been two months since I commenced my health journey – Tame the Crave. And that ‘Q’ word is creeping it’s way into my mind just as it did all those years ago during my race. I’ve enjoyed some initial success and encouraging camaraderie, but the difficulties of the day-in and day-out rhythms of self-denial under the onslaught of such pleasurable temptations leave me asking some of those same questions. It wouldn’t be the end of the world, would it? Is it worth the pain? God loves me not matter what, right? Maybe I should quit.

I find myself wanting what we all want – the gain without the pain. We want the thrill of the last .1 mile of the half marathon without the 13 miles leading up to it. I find this to be true in many aspects of life, not just health. We want stuff now, so we buy the new car-furniture-TV-appliance with ‘no money down and zero interest for a year.’ We envy the fame and success of others but gloss over the laborious hours required to achieve such recognition and reward. Or maybe, and this hits closer to home, we crave intimacy with God, but we don’t invest time in our relationship with Him.

Do you know what my race required of me, and what this health journey is requiring too?

The ‘E’ word – Endurance.

God’s word has plenty to say on the topic.

Hebrews 10:36 reminds us that we, “have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.” We all need endurance to reach the finish line of whatever race we are running.

Endurance is also a key ingredient in the process of spiritual maturity. James 1:4 says, “And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” It propels us toward completeness; it fills in our gaps and leads us to holiness. It teaches us diligence, self-control, patience, and perseverance.

Endurance is an identifying characteristic of servants of God. Paul exemplifies endurance; “but in everything commending ourselves as servants of God, in much endurance, in afflictions, in hardships, in distresses,” (2 Corinthians 6:4).

But here’s the real kicker – biblically speaking, endurance is connected with happiness and cheerfulness! The Greek word, hupomone, refers to cheerful or hopeful constancy, patience, and waiting. Endurance sees beyond the here and now. It doesn’t get bogged down in the trivial and temporal – it forgoes fleeting pleasure for the sake of eternal rewards. James calls those who have endured blessed, or happy! “We count those blessed who endured. You have heard of the endurance of Job and have seen the outcome of the Lord’s dealings, that the Lord is full of compassion and is merciful” (James 5:11).

If you’ve read the book of Job lately, you know that in the midst of his trials, Job was anything but happy. But, Job endured and remained obedient, a faithful servant of God, and the end result was magnificent. Not only did God give back to Job abundantly more than what Satan took away, but Job also gained tremendous insight into God’s power, mercy, and compassion.

That’s how endurance becomes a blessing for us too. Endurance teaches us patience in moments of pain and despair, self-control in times of temptation, and true happiness when we’ve reached the end.

But how do we endure?

In her message entitled “The Path of Endurance,” the late Elisabeth Elliot (one of my favorites) makes this bold claim: ‘struggle’ is a nice way of saying ‘delayed obedience.’ OUCH! How often do I ‘struggle’ over decisions or choices, when the truth is that I haven’t yet decided to obey? And honestly, for me delayed obedience often turns in to disobedience. When I ‘struggle’ with unhealthy cravings, I’m actually opening up space in my soul for temptation to take the lead instead of deciding immediately to obey. Obedience has a way of banishing temptation, at least for a time. Enter endurance – the cheerful, hopeful, and patient obedience that promises great rewards. But it’s not a one and done deal. It’s a daily choice, a moment by moment decision.

I didn’t quit the race I began on that frigid November morning. It was hard. My body hurt. But pavement pound by pavement pound I endured. I chose to keep running. And the feeling when I crossed the finish line? Fantastic! I did it!

I haven’t achieved this in my health journey yet. I’m still in those middle miles, putting one foot in front of the other, laboring for the finish line. But I know there will be rejoicing in the end. I’m choosing obedience and wisdom. It’s far from easy, and the excitement that got me started has completely worn off, but these are the defining moments. I’m choosing to Endure, not to Quit.

 

“Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us” (Hebrews 12:1)

Fear, anger, hunger. All can be normal, healthy feelings. If a grizzly bear is chasing me through the forest, fear is absolutely healthy and helpful! If I get angry when I see a child being abused, that is a good and motivating anger. If it’s 9PM and I haven’t eaten all day, I need to listen to those hunger pangs.

But our enemy is all too skilled and practiced in turning these God given feelings into unhealthy and sinful behavior.

If I sit wringing my hands in worry over an event that has precisely .00002 percent chance of happening, my fear pulls me away from my relationship with God and trust in Him. If I lash out when someone unknowingly offends me, that anger has control of me, not the Holy Spirit. If I feed every hunger, even though I know logically I’ve already had enough to eat, then my belly has become my god (Phil 3:19), instead of my Savior. 

In his second letter to the Corinthian church, Paul recounts the multitude of tremendous trials he has endured for the the love of God and the love of the Body of Christ. He reminds the Corinthians of what He has been through to bring them the gospel and the teaching of Christ. In the middle of his list of difficulties he lists hunger.

Hunger.

Paul went hungry for the sake of others. Where would we be today if Paul had put his own comfort and desires above the will of God? What if he had sought satisfaction for his belly instead of the calling of Christ?

You know who else set this example for us?

Jesus.

Twice accounted.

The first was His temptation in the wilderness. Jesus had been fasting for forty days. Then Satan came and tempted Him with food. Even though He was very hungry, He refused. Why? He was obedient to the Father. If He hadn’t been obedient, He couldn’t have been our Savior. If He hadn’t been obedient, He wouldn’t be our example.

The second was on the cross. In his gospel, John relates how Jesus, hanging on the cross, crown of thorns pressed into His head, waited. He waited until all His Father’s work was done.

“After this, Jesus, knowing that all things were now accomplished, that the Scripture might be fulfilled, said, ‘I thirst!'” (John 19:28)

Jesus put the will of His Father above the desires of His flesh – even when He was in agony. 

 

We have numerous examples in Scripture of what happens when people serve their cravings rather than God. Most notable are the Israelites. They “willfully put God to the test by demanding the food they crave” (Psalm 78:18). They chose their bellies over God, and that choice had life-changing ramifications. That generation traded God’s abundance for desert wanderings.

I echo Lysa TerKeurst in her book “Made to Crave” –

“I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to wander about in a ‘desert,’ unable to enter into the abundant life God has for me because I willfully put Him to the test over food!”

So I wonder, should we always obey hunger?

Is hunger always a truth requiring action? A truth that I must obey? Obviously I don’t obey my full signals, otherwise I wouldn’t be on this journey. But I usually obey hunger, those momentary pangs trump most everything when they arrive.

But when I obey hunger I makes rationalizations and excuses. When I obey hunger I let it take hold of my emotions – mostly the grumpy one. When I obey hunger I take my mind off of the one who made both my belly and food to fill it.

Sometimes I must ignore hunger if it interferes with my obedience to my God.

 All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything. Food is for the stomach and the stomach is for food, but God will do away with both of them. Yet the body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body. Now God has not only raised the Lord, but will also raise us up through His power. 

1 Corinthians 6:12-14

Please don’t mistake me. I’m in no way condoning starving ourselves and I’m not necessarily encouraging fasting. The challenge I want to present to you and me is this: choose to feed our relationship with God over our relationship with food. To let our Gentle Shepherd lead us rather than our voracious appetites.

Heavenly Father,

Thank you for sending Your Son to not only save us from the penalty of our sin, but to also be the perfect example we can look to for help in every area of life. Jesus, and many many who follow Him, have shown us how to truly love You – by obeying Your eternal will instead of our temporary desires.

I am so thankful that You are continuing to refine me and make me more like Your Son. Even in this area of food.

Help me Lord, to replace my hunger for unhealthy treats and overindulgence with hunger and thirst for Your righteousness (Matthew 5:6). I trust You to satisfy in a deeper an more powerful way than any delicious tidbit.

Thank you Lord that obedience in this way brings relatively quick results: weight loss, more energy, better sleep. Help me to also be obedient in areas where results are often delayed for years or even until heaven.

I choose to love You more than food.

Amen

P.S. – It’s Wednesday weigh-in day. My results today were more encouraging than last week’s. Down another 1.8 pounds – I’ll take it!

Today was weigh-in day. It’s the end of week two on my Tame the Crave journey. As I shared before, I started out at 164 pounds. At the end of week one I was feeling empowered when I weighed in at 161 pounds – three pounds down in one week – hooray!

Today was different. I weighed in with a deficit of .6 pounds. Not even one whole pound in seven days. On the one hand I’m pleased that at least I lost some weight, but on the other hand I was so hoping to break into the 150’s today. And after a week of three pounds of weight loss, .6 seems awfully measly.

Since the scale doesn’t lie, I’ve had to evaluate my eating this past week. If I’m honest with myself, and I have to be, I know exactly where I veered off course.

You see, though I’ve removed tempting unhealthy foods from my diet, I’m finding it all too easy to overindulge in other things instead (like, just maybe, peanut butter). And there were far too many times this last week that I kept eating, even when I wasn’t hungry.

There were moments when the Holy Spirit nudged me to stop eating because I didn’t need more. A few times I listened. A few more times I didn’t.

I find unhealthy desires continue to dwell in my wayward flesh. I see that I am not truly relying on God to satisfy and nourish my innermost cravings. Instead, I’m ravenously searching for an ‘okay’ food to feed my crave.

A journal entry from last week perfectly reveals the inner struggle:

Today was a day of excuse and exception bombardment. It sounds ridiculous, but I’m already thinking about the Super Bowl party (we have one every year with the youth group) and all the deliciousness that will be there. And starting to say to myself, ‘Maybe it could be a splurge day?!?’ What? Here I am almost a month away from the event, dreaming of indulgence! This reminds me that there is something fundamentally wrong with my attitude towards food.

In the introduction to her book, “Made to Crave,” Lysa TerKeurst writes:

We feel overweight physically but underweight spiritually. Tying these two things together is the first step on one of the most significant journey’s you’ll ever take with God.

My soul is ready for the journey; though my body wants to stubbornly refuse – like a toddler flopping on the ground and screaming when she doesn’t get what she wants.

So I have to bring my body into submission because it’s desires will never lead me to health or holiness. I must Tame the Crave so that it doesn’t tame me. And I must redirect the crave to the One it has been intended for all along – to the only One who can fill me.

Heavenly Father,

It feels kind of weird to seek You in this area of my life. I’ve often felt like my eating habits were an area in which I needed to ‘get it together’ on my own. 

But I know the truth is that You are intimately concerned and involved with my fight for holiness – even regarding my food indulgence. You are purifying Your Bride, and that includes me. 

Forgive me for ignoring Your Holy Spirit this last week. I want to continue to learn obedience in all areas of life.

God, I want to want You more than food. I want my cry to be “How lovely is Your dwelling place, O Lord Almighty! My soul yearns, even faints, for the courts of the Lord; my heart and my flesh cry out for the living God” (Psalm 84:1-2). Not, ‘How beautiful is that birthday cake and my heart cries out for that enticing piece of pizza.’

“My flesh and my heart fail; But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” (Psalm 73:26). You are my portion; not food. You alone fill me up and satisfy my failing flesh; not delectable edibles.

Lord, help me to remember Your truth in the midst of temptation so that I choose to heed Your Holy Spirit instead of my flesh.

Thank you for Your unconditional love. And thank you for continuing to refine me to be more like Your Son.

Amen